Category Archives: Mindfulness Tips

Taking the Mystery out of Meditation

Meditation is like taking a good friend to a coffee shop and getting to know her better, only without the coffee and the good friend is you.   Just sit down with yourself and bring your open, curious attention to what is going on with you.  Notice what thoughts are passing through your mind, what feelings are present, and what your body feels like.

If you spent even a teeny portion of the time you spend getting to know others in getting to know yourself, it would be extraordinarily beneficial.  Research indicates the benefits of meditation range from alleviation or decrease in a broad range of physical symptoms to a decrease in anxiety and depression.  However, a lot of people go through their entire lives without doing it. 

Getting to know yourself and living a life of presence doesn’t have to happen through meditation practice, but it is one of the best ways I’ve discovered. 

You might have been reading this blog for some time now and never taken the time to “taste mindfulness” for yourself.  So, I’m offering a challenge to help you get started.

Just sit, right where you are.  Don’t move (except to settle the body into a relaxed, yet alert posture.  Click here and practice a three minute meditation.  If you will comment below on what you noticed by September 11, I’ll put your name in a drawing for a book called “Commit to Sit: Tools for Cultivating a Meditation Practice.”

As Jon Kabat-Zinn says, when you sit down to meditate, don’t even think “I am meditating.”   “Just be awake, with no trying, no agenda, no ideas even about what it should look like or feel like or where your attention should be.”   Do this three minute meditation every day or try some of the longer meditations found on the Audio/Video link above.  Find out, firsthand, the benefits of meditation.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

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Eat for Life – 10 week program to help you savor your food and respect your body – Register Now!

I’m happy to announce that registration is open for my successful non-diet weight management approach to eating for health and enjoyment.  This ten week class starts in September so you need to register soon.  If you live in Columbia or Kansas City, you might enjoy taking the in-person class being held on the University of Missouri campus.  Otherwise, you can take the Eat for Life class from the comfort of your own home, coffee shop, or office—wherever you have a computer.  The online version of the class uses the same materials as the in-person class and includes video and audio recordings to help you understand and practice the philosophy of mindful and intuitive eating.  Go to the “classes” link above to listen to the informational and testimonial videos and read more about the class.  For more information and to enroll, please contact me, Dr. Rossy, at RossyL@umsystem.edu

 

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The Basics of Mindful Eating (Interview With Dr. Rossy)

I recently had the opportunity to be interviewed about mindful eating and thought you might enjoy reading the article at Slimkicker. Learn how I discovered mindful eating, how you do it, how you benefit from it, how to socialize and eat mindfully at the same time, how to incorporate mindfulness into your workday and more.

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Wake Up! Be Happy!

A study by Harvard researchers indicates that the more you daydream the less likely you are to be happy.  And, it comes as no surprise that people’s minds are wandering about 47% of the time.  That’s almost half of your waking hours. 

When we’re lost in thought this means we’re lost in primarily negative and habitual thinking patterns about the past or the future.  If you’re caught in the past, it’s often depressing.  If you’re caught in the future, it’s often anxiety-provoking.  Every time I teach this in one of my classes I can see people nodding their heads in agreement. We often think we are unique, but our minds are basically alike due to having the same survival and other physiological response mechanisms.

Being engaged in any activity will result in you being happier.  Put another way, the more mindful and conscious you are as you go about your daily activities, the better you would feel.  So, being present for the world around you in “real time” instead of lost in thought would create a happier you. 

I particularly noticed this today as I was traveling across the country to visit my niece.   Sitting in the plane on the second leg of my air travel, I suddenly realized my mind had been running a scenario over and over of a situation at work that hadn’t even happened yet and trying to find a solution.   As the future drama ensued (in my mind), I felt more and more uncomfortable and anxious.   Waking up to the time warp in my mind, I re-calibrated to the present.  Sitting in the airplane.  Breathing.  Young woman watching a video in the seat next to me.  Seat belt sign on.  I felt fine.   Life was okay.   Hey, it’s pretty great.  I’m on vacation!  Oh yeah!

This is what happens.  We get caught in thought, and we lose touch with reality.   If you were able to add up whether you were okay or not in each successive moment of your life in one average day, I would venture to guess you would discover it is mostly fine.  But when you’re caught in mindless thinking you convince yourself you’re not.  Byron Katie, author of Loving What Is, says  “all stress comes from believing a thought that argues with reality.” 

Wake up to what’s really happening as much as you can and notice what happens.  Mark Twain said it best, “I have suffered a great many misfortunes, most of which have never happened.”   Deal with the misfortunes when they actually do happen (and they will), but don’t waste the rest of your life on the imagined ones.  Be happy!

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Mindfulness = Antidote to Boredom

Watch this video called “The Money Tree” and then ask yourself how much of life you’re missing out on.  You might not see a money tree, but you may be missing something even more important.   No moment of life has to be boring.

In fact, if you think something is boring, take a second look.  Look deeply into your experience as if for the first time.  This is the power of mindfulness.  The ordinary can still be ordinary and extraordinary at the same time.  We miss so much of the wonder all around us because we have become deadened to our lives.  And, unless we are being entertained by something we quickly lose interest.   We already think we know what something is going to be like so we stop examining and we quit being curious.  This is the quickest way to become bored! Continue reading

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Watering the Flowers and Trees as Meditation Practice

When you think about meditation, you might think about someone serenely sitting on her cushion with her eyes closed, soft music in the background, beautiful flowers on an altar, burning incense, etc.   While this may be true, there are many other things that can be considered meditation. 

According to Jon Kabat-Zinn, in his book Arriving at Your Own Door, “meditation is really about paying attention, and the only way in which we can pay attention is through our senses, all of them, including the mind. “

If you think about it then, ANYTHING can be meditation.   The key is to be present, pay attention, and experience the present moment with the senses of taste, touch, smell, sound, sight, and thought.  So, you can be aware of all (or part) of theses senses when you are sitting in meditation but you can also take this practice OFF THE CUSHION. 

In fact, in a recent article I just read on Diets in Review, they were mentioning the fact that since here is a growing body of evidence that suggests that sitting for long periods of time is pretty unhealthy for the body, you might want to try more active types of meditation practice, particularly if you are sedentary during the day.  Read full article here.  Not that I want to discourage anyone from sitting meditation practice (as I think it is a pretty healthy thing to do).  But, I do want to suggest that you take a broader perspective about meditation practice.

My own meditation practice this summer has included watering the flower beds.  In case you haven’t noticed, we are having an incredible drought this summer, and I have spent hours watering to try to keep my flowers and trees alive.  Instead of being frustrated by what is happening, I have brought this activity into the realm of meditation practice.  The time I spend watering is time I get to spend outside in nature, being grateful for the beauty of the flowers, listening to all the little bugs and birds, breathing in fresh air (something we don’t get enough of these days), feeling the warmth of the sun against my skin, and smelling the scents of the mulch and flowers.   Occasionally I even have an erratic sprinkler that gets me pretty wet which is just delightful. 

Other types of active meditation are described in the article above and include walking or running meditation,  cleaning or yard work meditation, and dancing meditation.  I would also include yoga,  swimming, biking, hiking, and climbing to name a few.  All you have to do is be present and take it all in.  Do these types of activities on a regular basis by yourself and strengthen your ability to be present for your life, as well as get some much needed movement into your day.

 

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The metabolism of gratitude

For a few months now, every Monday night I have been getting together with a couple of girlfriends to have dinner.  We meet at one of our houses and everybody brings something to share.  It is a wonderful way to cut down on how much cooking one person has to do, you get a fabulous meal, and share great company.  Before the meal this week I read an excerpt from A Grateful Heart: Daily Blessings for the Evening Meal from Buddha to the Beatles with Bookmark” by M. J. Ryan.  This is not something I normally do with others and my friends were so moved at the reading that we stopped and talked about the idea expressed before beginning to eat.  This book has brought back the beauty of stopping to give thanks before eating (something we always did when I was a child) and to reflect on what has heart and meaning.  I encourage you to notice what happens if you pause before eating, even when you’re alone, and remember how much there is to be grateful for.   The slowing down will help your metabolism kick in even before you eat.  I call it the “metabolism of gratitude.” 

By the way, an omelette, green salad, and potato salad make a superb summer dinner.  The omelette had shitake mushrooms, goat cheese, zuchinni, swiss chard, garlic, and onion.  The green salad had tomatoes, zucchini, pumpkin seeds, and avacodo.  My friend brought the potato salad so I don’t know all of the ingredients.  However, everything was from a local garden or business and tasted like heaven.

An excerpt from A Grateful Heart: Continue reading

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Slow down, you move too fast, you got to make the moment last…

 So I couldn’t help thinking about the Simon and Garfunkel song when I read about the latest research coming out in the Journal of Consumer Research.  The research demonstrates the need to “slow down” if you want to get more pleasure out of your life, particularly during activities such as eating. 

As you know, we are all in such a big hurry these days. In fact, I would say the tyranny of busyness effects most people and never in a positive manner. People say to me all the time that they are so busy rushing from one activity to the next they either don’t have time to eat or they eat on the run, in the car, at their computer working, or during some other activity.   This way of eating strips all of the pleasure from it. By the way, it strips the pleasure out of most other things as well.

In the study by Jeff Golak, Justin Kruger, and George Loewenstein, test subjects picked the time they would wait in between eating six Hershey’s Kisses (from 10 seconds to 200 seconds) or the time was assigned to them of 200 seconds in between Kisses.

When given a choice, people spent 93 seconds in between each Kiss, which was more than twice as fast as the assigned group.  The people who ate the candies more quickly said that their pleasure dropped steeply from the first Kiss to the last. For the more leisurely group, enjoyment dropped only slightly.

Take home message:  The first bite is always the best (if you’re present for it) and the rest can be really good too if you slow down to enjoy it.  Do it slow!  And enjoy!

Note: I am aware the lyrics of the song by Simon and Garfunkel are “Slow down, you move too fast, you got to make the morning last” but moment worked better for the story.  Forgive me, Simon and Garfunkel.

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The Seven Hungers

Did you know you had so many hungers?  Jan Chozen Bays, MD,  presents us with the model of them in her book “Mindful Eating: A Guide to Rediscovering a Healthy and Joyful Relationship with Food.” The seven hungers are eye hunger, nose hunger, mouth hunger, stomach hunger, mind hunger, cellular hunger, and heart hunger.  

According to Dr. Bays, we need to satisfy all our hungers or we might fall prey to a lot of dissatisfied overeating.

To satisfy “eye hunger” we need to create beauty around the eating experience.  Ask yourself.  Which is more beautiful and satisfies more– food wrapped in fast food packaging or a nicely set table with flowers, candles, and table cloth.  Continue reading

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A Mindful Nation: a message from Washington I can believe in.

A few years ago Jon Kabat-Zinn and others within the mindfulness community were given time to spend with some members of Congress.  The message seemed to take with Representative Tim Ryan and he now has a book out, A Mindful Nation, describing his belief in the power of “meditative mindfulness” to effect change in people’s lives on all levels.   If it works, he says, “why wouldn’t we have it as part of our health care program?”  Good question.  There is a huge body of scientific research that demonstrates the positive effects of mindfulness in people experiencing a wide variety of mental and physical health problems.    If we really want health care reform and to lower health care costs, we need to start personally taking care of our health.   But wouldn’t it be nice to walk out of your doctor’s office with a prescription of “mindfulness  practice” and actually be supported financially to take a program that works without drugs.   Read more about Rep. Ryan in the recent Washington Post article.  

Please note:  This message is not intended to suggest that you should not follow your doctor’s orders if you need to be on prescription drugs.  It is suggesting that sometimes there is a better way.

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